I’m not one to jump on a bandwagon of the latest and greatest skincare line or the trendy self-help lady train that promises the moon, in fact I almost have prided myself on my stubborn ways when it comes to trying much of anything. Sometimes though when you are chatting with a friend over coffee and the conversation turns to how you are feeling more tired these days, or that sleep isn’t great when your mind is always running. You hear yourself saying these lines yet you know that if the table was turned you would tell your girlfriend that she needs to take better care of herself; you know “work life balance!”

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What happens though when you simply aren’t taking the advise that you know you would readily dish out? Well it may be time to set some intention in your daily regimen, taking small steps towards habits that can re-align yourself with better rest, better clarity and balance by diving deeper into some of the causes and effects of what holds you back.

Growing our businesses may be our passion, but we still need to take care of ourselves in order to show up in our business and clients with the best version of ourselves. I am excited that my dear friend invited me to join a free 7 day virtual retreat through Nina Camille and you can check it out for yourself if you are interested in participating: https://www.experiencefreedom.co/virtual-retreat

Aside from the virtual retreat I am going to focus more on what we as a family put in our bodies because when you are a mompreneur and your kids have the longest cold ever - you start to think maybe we could be doing more to build up better immunity and eliminate some of the foods that could be adding inflammation or allergies. My hope is also for some quality time with my young daughters in the kitchen will be good for the soul too!

So cheers to relaxing on Thanksgiving but also to taking some time to reflect & look inwards a bit in order to set some intentions for ourselves in the coming year!

“It takes more than passion to be successful in any industry, but especially in the creative world of wedding planning.”

A writer can get writers block, an artist can lose their muse or become un-inspired to create. Our will to show up and to meet & exceed the expectations of our clients no matter how full or empty our cup is in our personal lives. The dedication that it takes to succeed in an industry where you can’t simply call in sick or lose focus, that is what set’s the successful business owners apart from others.

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With so many planners starting their business on the side of another full time job or perhaps after a major career change, the idea of being a planner can feel like this unicorn dream that you are chasing and someday you will get to be a full time, real-deal planner living the dream! I do believe this isn’t a dream, it is a reality for those who want to put the work in! We could talk all day about planners who are making over six figures and have grown a large team of associate planners, branched into florals & luxury design.. in other words killing it!

However that isn’t the focus of the post, because instead I wanted to talk about the un-sexy times of feeling the burn out and the self-doubt. Then how to get past those emotions and set yourself up for a path where you can have a long & successful career in the industry as a business owner.

• Set clear goals in attainable steps

• Focus on education & systems to improve efficiency

• Limit distractions - You have plenty of time for social media after you get those emails out!

• Don’t try to be everything to everyone - find your special strength or target in your industry & get to know your ideal clients that you work well with

• Be clear on boundaries with clients to avoid burnout, keep relationships with clients professional

• Under promise & over deliver - this advice will never get old. You can’t succeed if your clients aren’t satisfied with the end result

• Learn to not take things personally! You might have one wedding that feels stressful or that you learned a lesson the hard way but take the lesson and apply it to your next wedding without it messing with your emotions.

Of course self-care & mindset are going to play a huge role in leveling up, if you are constantly having self-limiting thoughts and not taking good care of your mind & body it will take a toll on your work. No one wants to have a wedding planner who comes across as frazzled or stressed. Clients look for confidence, so it is important to start building your inner confidence in order for that to shine in your work.

Find your tribe, good people both in and out of the industry who can help you stay accountable, connected and focused. It can be hard to relate to friends and family who work an 8-5 type job where they aren’t always feeling like they are on-call or needing to challenge themselves to keep reaching for the next level all on their own. We can create a network of people who inspire us and challenge us to keep charging forward.

The biggest take-away is that work is work! It isn’t always going to feel like a dream job, but your clients are relying on you. Set the expectation that as a business owner you will have late nights, a little extra worry here and there but a whole lot of gratitude when you look around at the business you have built from the ground up. The best things take time - you got this!
xoxo- Veronica

Sunday’s are meant for rest, family, re-filling your cup in the best way possible and often we wait until Monday to tackle the work for the week, but I wanted to share a topic that I think is very important for the self-care movement that we see in the creative industry.

We simply have to start setting boundaries for ourselves and stop putting ourselves in the oppressed state of owning a business. Go back to square one on why you started your business, certainly it wasn’t to live in a constant state of self-doubt.. heck no! You are following a passion and sharing your craft/talent/gift or service with the world. So today I shared in our free Wedding Planner Mastermind Group on Facebook that we will dedicate the week to talking all about financial health. From talking about saving for taxes, profitability, budgeting for expenses, saying no to clients or work that doesn’t serve you; it all factors in to the financial health of any company.

If you haven’t joined the Wedding Planner Mastermind Group, make sure to request to join us on Facebook and we’d love to welcome you into a place where you can share questions, network with other experienced planners and find resources needed to help take the next step in your business.

Over the year’s I’ve been a skeptic, rolling my eyes at all of the posts and magazine articles that I’ve read that were telling me I needed to do yoga or get a massage..you know “me-time.” It didn’t seem realistic or even feasible with my schedule as a mom and busy wedding planner.

To keep it real with you it was only recently that I gave myself a reality check about trying to do it all. Honestly, I spend so much time organizing other people’s stuff that I had let a lot of things under my own roof slip like our guest room being overtaken with some of my extra wedding decor from over the years. It wasn’t until I started taking walks, and even investing in a membership at the gym which has a childcare area that really helped me carve out two hours when I need it during the week for me time.

I won’t tell you to eat greek yogurt and take up essential oils but I will tell you to seriously give yourself some grace and take time to just breathe or read a book. This time will allow you to de-stress and become more present with those around you, and who doesn’t want that?

What activities help you feel calm and relaxed? Feel free to drop a comment below with your favorite zen time!